How to choose memorial or funeral Songs

Planning a funeral or memorial service is a deeply personal and emotional process and choosing the right funeral song to accompany it can help to honour and celebrate your loved ones life.

In this article, we will share some tips on how to choose funeral songs that are meaningful for your loved one's service.

Consider the person's personality

The first thing to consider when choosing funeral songs is the person's personality. Think about what kind of music they liked listening to, what genres, who their favourite band or artists were and perhaps even lyrics that resonated with them. If your loved one was a fun-loving, energetic person you might like to choose upbeat songs that celebrate this spirit. Alternatively, if they were more reflective or introspective, you might like to choose more contemplative or emotional songs that honour their memory.

Think about the mood you want to create

Another important factor to consider when choosing funeral songs is the mood. The music you choose will set the tone for the service, so think about what kind of atmosphere you want to create. Do you want to create a sombre, reflective mood or would you prefer to celebrate your loved one's life with a more upbeat tone? Consider the message you want to convey and choose songs that reflect that.

Ask for friends and family

Choosing funeral songs can be daunting and it's important to remember that you don't have to choose one alone. Reach out to friends and family and ask for their thoughts and suggestions. They may have ideas for songs that you haven't considered, or they may have special memories associated with certain songs that would be meaningful to include in the service.

Consider the lyrics

The words in a song can be just as important as the melody therefore you want to choose songs whose lyrics are appropriate and meaningful. Research songs that contain lyrics that speak to the person's life and personality and avoid songs that might be seen as insensitive or inappropriate.

Don't be afraid to get creative

There's no rules when it comes to choosing funeral songs and you don't have to always opt for traditional or sombre music if that doesn't feel right for your loved one's service. Consider songs that are outside the box or that have special meaning to you and your family. You might even consider writing your own song to create a piece of music that honours your loved one's memory.

Consider the length of the service

Be mindful of the length of the service. You don't want too many songs or the service might run too long or not enough and the service feels rushed. Aim for a balance of songs that will fit comfortably within the timeframe.

Remember to take care of yourself

Planning a funeral or memorial service can be emotionally exhausting, and it's important to remember to take care of yourself during this difficult time. If you are struggling and need help choosing funeral songs, don't hesitate to reach out to friends or family for support. You might like to consider working with a funeral director or celebrant who can offer guidance and assistance.

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