Dispelling common myths about direct cremation

We understand that this is a sensitive time for you and your family, and so we hope this guide helps provide you and your family with the correct information surrounding direct cremation.

What is direct cremation?

Direct cremation is where the deceased is cremated immediately after a loved one passes away. Direct cremations, which are sometimes referred to as simple cremation or basic cremation, don't have a traditional formal funeral service or viewing beforehand. The ashes are then collected by the family and used in a way that is meaningful to them.

Myth: Direct cremation is disrespectful

Fact: Direct cremation is a respectful way of honouring a loved one's final wishes. Although it may be less expensive than a traditional funeral, it is not less respectful. And even though family don't attend the direct cremation, the deceased is treated with enormous respect throughout the process. In some cultures cremation is actually a very traditional way of honouring the deceased's final wishes.

Myth: You must hold a memorial service before cremation or burial

Fact: You are not required to hold a funeral or memorial service before a cremation or burial. Instead, you can hold a service after the final disposition of your loved one's remains. This allows your family to celebrate their life at a time that suits you, without the pressure and expense of hosting an elaborate funeral.

Myth: A funeral director must plan a direct cremation

Fact: It is not mandatory to hire a funeral director when a loved one passes away. You can handle the process yourself, but many families choose to hire a funeral director to help relieve the stress involved. Online end of life planning platforms like Willed, can also take care of everything involved in a direct cremation, making it easier and more affordable for you to arrange the perfect farewell for your loved one.

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Myth: The casket must be at the funeral or memorial

Fact: Families have the option to hold the funeral or memorial after cremation or burial. Instead of displaying the casket at the ceremony, it's common to set up a memory table with the deceased's photo and personal effects. Sometimes the ashes will also be placed in a decorative urn on the table.

Many people in fact faced this decision during the peak of the pandemic. During this time, only one or two people could gather to say their final goodbyes, then once restrictions eased, loved ones gathered to hold a memorial service.

Myth: Prepaid cremation services are expensive

Fact: Prepaying for cremation can actually save you money in the long run, for the cost of cremation will only increase over time. Prepaying your funeral today means you are able to lock in today's price, saving your family money in the future.

Myth: Only poor people use direct cremation

Fact: Direct cremation is becoming more popular, and it is not only used by those who cannot afford a lavish funeral. Famous people like Prince, John Lennon, David Bowie, Orson Welles and Albert Einstein chose direct cremation over the conventional casket and pallbearer funeral.

Myth: You must keep cremated ashes in an urn or cemetery niche

Fact: There are many things that can be done with cremated ashes, including scattering them, dividing them among family members, burying them, planting a tree or making an heirloom.

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Myth: You must hold funeral services in a church or chapel

Fact: If you're not affiliated with a particular religion, you may not want to hold a homegoing ceremony at a place of worship. You can hold the service at a location that is more appropriate, such as a river, ocean, park or garden. You can even hire a celebrant to officiate the service if you don't feel comfortable to do so.

Myth: You can't control what happens in a direct cremation

Fact: A direct cremation actually gives you and your family greater freedom and time to plan a personalised farewell. You can prepare your final wishes and note them in your will while you are still alive. This directive will provide your loved ones with insight into your preferences and prevent them from being in the dark.

By prepaying your cremation, you can leave specific instructions about how you want to say goodbye. Whether you want to release caged pigeons or doves as your ashes are scattered in your favourite spot or have a gourmet dinner after the service, you can make your final wishes heard.

Direct cremation is a sensible and affordable option that allows you to plan a personalised farewell that reflects your wishes. If you have any concerns or questions, you can always reach out to a dedicated funeral arranger.