Poems for memorials: Finding comfort in words

If you're struggling to find the right words to express your emotions after the passing of a loved one, don't worry. Many people feel the same way. Poems for memorials can be very helpful for they provide comfort and peace during this difficult time.

When selecting a funeral poem, it's important to choose one that reflects the personality and spirit of the person who has passed. Funeral planners, celebrants, or funeral directors can assist you in selecting poems for memorials that honour your loved one's memory.

Poems for memorials are great at helping you express your emotions when finding the right words to say seem too hard to find. A carefully chosen funeral poem has the power to provide the perfect tribute to your loved one's life. Here are a few poems for memorials that you might like to share with friends and family at a memorial service or funeral:

She Is Gone (He Is Gone)

You can shed tears that she is gone

Or you can smile because she has lived

You can close your eyes and pray that she will come back

Or you can open your eyes and see all that she has left

Your heart can be empty because you can't see her

Or you can be full of the love that you shared

You can turn your back on tomorrow and live yesterday

Or you can be happy for tomorrow because of yesterday

You can remember her and only that she is gone

Or you can cherish her memory and let it live on

You can cry and close your mind, be empty and turn your back

Or you can do what she would want: smile, open your eyes, love and go on

These are the lines of "Remember Me", a poem written by English painter and poet David Harkins in 1982. This straightforward poem is perfect for someone who lived their life the same way. Hearing it recited teaches us to be grateful.

Farewell My Friends

Farewell, my friends.

It was beautiful

As long as it lasted,

The journey of my life.

The poet and musician Rabindranath Tagore wrote this lovely eulogy thanking God for a life well-lived.

Feel No Guilt in Laughter, He'd Know How Much You Care

Feel no guilt in laughter, he'd know how much you care.

Feel no sorrow in a smile that he is not here to share.

You cannot grieve forever; he would not want you to.

He'd hope that you could carry on the way you always do.

So, talk about the good times and the way you showed you cared,

The days you spent together, all the happiness you shared.

Let memories surround you, a word someone may say

Will suddenly recapture a time, an hour, a day,

That brings him back as clearly as though he were still here,

And fills you with the feeling that he is always near.

For if you keep those moments, you will never be apart

And he will live forever locked safely within your heart.

These lyrics are perfect if you are looking for a well-known poem which will brighten sad faces at a funeral or memorial. The anonymous writer manages to capture the spectrum of emotions and sentiments experienced when you lose a loved one.

If I Should Go Tomorrow

If I should go tomorrow

It would never be goodbye,

For I have left my heart with you,

So don't you ever cry.

The love that's deep within me,

Shall reach you from the stars,

You'll feel it from the heavens,

And it will heal the scars.

Written by an anonymous writer, this short rhyming poem is ideal for an obituary. It explains that although a person has physically departed this world, their love will always be felt.

Let Me Go

When I come to the end of the road

And the sun has set for me

I want no rites in a gloom filled room

Why cry for a soul set free?

These lyrics are among the famous 19th-century poet Christina Rossetti's many poems about grief. Rossetti was a prolific author of poetry, and likely one of the Victorian age's finest poets.

Do Not Stand at my Grave and Weep

Do not stand

By my grave, and weep.

I am not there,

I do not sleep-

I am the thousand winds that blow

I am the diamond glints on snow

I am the sunlight on ripened grain,

I am the gentle, autumn rain.

As you awake with morning's hush,

I am the swift, up-flinging rush

Of quiet birds in circling flight,

I am the day transcending night.

Do not stand

By my grave, and cry-

I am not there,

I did not die.

This poem was written in the 1930's by Clare Harner after the sudden death of her brother in America. Originally titled "Immortality", Harner's poem soon gained popularity as a eulogy. Interestingly, this poem is often misattributed - most notably Mary Elizabeth Frye asserted ownership of it in 1983.

The Dash Poem

I read of a man who stood to speak at a funeral of a friend. He referred to the dates on the tombstone from the beginning…to the end.

He noted that first came the date of birth and spoke of the following date with tears but said what mattered most of all was the dash between those years.

For that dash represents all the time they spent alive on earth and now only those who loved them know what that little line is worth.

For it matters not, how much we own, the cars…the house…the cash. What matters is how we lived and loved and how we spent our dash.

So, think about this long and hard; are there things you'd like to change? For you never know how much time is left that still can be rearranged.

To be less quick to anger and show appreciation more and love the people in our lives as we've never loved before. If we treat each other with respect and more often wear a smile…remembering that this special dash might only last a little while.

The Dash Poem, written by Linda Ellis, is popular among families as it talks about getting the most out of life while you are alive. Funeral poems like this one can help people think about what they want to get out of life. Linda teaches us that life is not about how many years you live but what you do with that time on earth. If you understand time, you know it's short. It doesn't matter if you live to be 26 or 60 years old. Live, laugh and most importantly, love!

Poetry can be a powerful tool for self-expression and evoke emotions in others, similar to what music does. Reading poems can help you through the grieving process, allowing you to see the situation from a different perspective. Writing poetry can also be therapeutic as it encourages reflection on meaningful memories and deep emotions.

Choosing the right words to honour a loved one need not be a daunting task. The suggested poems about death and loss can be a good starting point for you. If there is a particular poem that speaks to you, consider having it read at your funeral. By prepaying for your funeral, you can also ensure your memorial wishes are met and save your family from the stress and emotional burden of making arrangements.