14 types of grief you can experience after loss

Grief is a natural process that everyone goes through when they experience a loss. However, the way people cope with grief can vary greatly from person to person. Depending on the type of loss, some people might experience more than one type of grief at various stages throughout the grieving process.

To help yourself and those around you after a significant loss, it's important to understand the different types of grief and their causes. 

Anticipatory grief

Grief a person might experience before a loss. This can happen when a person knows that a loss is coming, such as when a loved one is terminally ill. Anticipatory grief can be just as intense as grief after a loss. It can be helpful to address and work through this type of grief before the actual loss occurs.

Chronic grief

Grief that persists over time. Chronic grief can happen when a person is unable to come to terms with a loss and continue to grieve long after the loss has occurred. Chronic grief can have a negative impact on a person's mental health and well-being. It's important to seek support and help if you are experiencing this type of grief.

Complicated grief

Grief that is more intense and prolonged than typical grief. It can happen when a person has difficulty accepting a loss, or when the loss is particularly traumatic or unexpected. Complicated grief can interfere with a person's ability to function and can lead to mental health problems such as depression or anxiety.

Delayed grief

Grief that happens when you feel intense longing or sorrow for a loss that occurred a long time ago. This type of grief is common when your emotional reaction didn't happen at the time of loss because of disassociation. Delayed grief can be experienced as the mind can block thoughts, emotions and feelings associated with the initial loss until you're ready to process and work through them. 

Disenfranchised grief

Grief that is not recognised or understood by others. This can happen when a person is grieving for a loss that is not necessarily a person such as the loss of a pet or a miscarriage. Disenfranchised grief can be isolating, as the grieving person may feel that their grief is not valid or important.

Distorted grief

Grief that is altered in some way. This can happen when a person's grief is influenced by other factors, such as substance abuse or mental health issues. Distorted grief can make it difficult for a person to process their grief in a healthy way, and it can lead to negative coping mechanisms such as self-destructive behaviour.  

Inhibited grief

Grief that is suppressed or held back. This can happen when a person is unable to express their grief, either because they are not comfortable with their emotions or because they are afraid of how others will react. Inhibited grief can lead to emotional problems and can make it difficult for a person to move forward after a loss.

Intense grief

Grief that is strong and overwhelming. This can happen when a person experiences a significant loss, such as the loss of a child or spouse. Intense grief can be physically and emotionally exhausting, and it can make it difficult for a person to function in their daily life.

Masked grief

Grief that is hidden or disguised. This can happen when a person does not want others to know that they are grieving, either because they are embarrassed or ashamed, or they don't want to burden others with their grief. Masked grief can be difficult to identify, and it can make it difficult for a person to receive the support and help they need.

Normal grief

Grief that is considered typical and expected. This can happen when a person experiences a common loss, such as the loss of a grandparent. Normal grief can be intense and painful, however it is mostly manageable and can be worked through with support and time to heal. 

Post-traumatic grief

Grief which follows a traumatic event. This can happen when a person experiences a loss that is sudden, violent, or unexpected, such as the loss of a loved one. 

Prolonged grief

Grief that lasts longer than expected. This can happen when a person is unable to move past their grief and continue to experience intense emotions and feelings long after the loss has occurred. Prolonged grief can be emotionally and physically exhausting, it can have a negative impact on a person's mental health and well-being.   

Secondary grief

Grief that occurs after a person has already experienced a loss. This can happen when a person loses something else that is connected to the original loss, such as a possession that belonged to a deceased loved one or another loved one has passed in a short amount of time. Secondary grief can be difficult to deal with, as it can bring up old grief and emotions.

Unresolved grief

Grief which is never fully resolved. This can happen when a person is unable to come to terms with a loss and continue to experience grief long after the loss has occurred. Unresolved grief can have a negative impact on a person's mental health and well-being, and it can make it difficult for a person to move forward and heal.

The journey through the stages of grief will vary depending on the type of grief. Whether it was coming or unexpectedly, coping with any loss is challenging. It's important to recognise that these feelings are completely normal and valid. If you need help navigating the feelings, there are plenty of grief and bereavement services across Australia.   

By Alana Dintinosante

To find support:  

Beyond Blue provides Australians with information and support to improve their mental health. Call 1300 22 46 36 or visit beyondblue.org.au for more information.

Lifeline Australia provides Australians experiencing a personal crisis with access to 24-hour crisis support. Call 13 11 14 or visit lifeline.org.au for more information.

GriefLine listens, cares and supports people experiencing loss and grief, at any stage in life. Call 1300 845 6am to midnight AEST, 7 days a week.

MensLine Australia is a professional telephone and online support and information service for Australian men. Call 1300 78 99 78, 24 hours / 7 days a week.

Kids Helpline is a free 24/7, confidential and private counselling service Australia wide specifically for children and young people aged 5 to 25 years. Call 1800 55 1800.

Life Supports Counselling provides Australians with experienced counsellors & psychologists in their local area Australia-wide. Call 1300 735... .