Funeral with military honours

In this article  we will walk you through the process of arranging a funeral with military honours in Australia and help you make the necessary preparations during this challenging time. 

Understanding funerals

Before delving into the specifics of military honours, it's essential to understand the basics of funerals. Funerals are a way for us to commemorate the lives of those we've lost, providing an opportunity for reflection, mourning and saying our final goodbyes. In times of grief, it's important to remember that there is no right or wrong way to plan a funeral. Instead, your choices should reflect the wishes and values of your loved one, as well as those of the family.  

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What is a military funeral with honours?

Individuals who have proudly served in the military, a funeral with military honours is a poignant and meaningful way to recognise their dedication and commitment to their country. These ceremonies typically involve a range of symbolic gestures and rituals that pay tribute to the person's service and the sacrifices they made.

Notify the military

The first step in organising a funeral with military honours is to contact the relevant military branch in which your loved one served. Inform them about your intent to include military honours in the funeral service. The military will work with you to make the necessary arrangements, which may include providing an honour guard, bugler and flag presentation.

Choose a suitable venue

Military funerals can be held at a variety of locations, including:  

1. Cemeteries - many military funerals are held at cemeteries. They provide a dignified backdrop for the honours ceremony.
2. Veterans cemeteries - fitting choice for those who have served in the military. They offer a place of rest surrounded by comrades.
3. Places of worship - if your loved one was religious, you may choose to hold the service at their place of worship, followed by military honours at the cemetery.
4. Memorial parks - some memorial parks and gardens offer designated spaces for military ceremonies, providing a serene and picturesque setting.

Decide on the details

As you plan the ceremony, consider these essential details:  

1. The order of service - work with a funeral director to create a program that outlines the sequence of events, including readings, eulogies and the military honours.
2. The eulogy - decide who will deliver the eulogy, which is a heartfelt speech that pays tribute to your loved one's life, service and character.
3. Music selection - choose music that holds significance for your family and the departed. You may also want to include military-themed songs or hymns.
4. Dress code - inform attendees of the appropriate dress code, which may include wearing military uniforms or patriotic attire. The Returned Services League RSL has protocols for wearing medals at events which might be helpful to become familiar with: Order of wearing medals (PDF)  RSL Medal Protocol (PDF). 

Seek professional assistance

Organising a military funeral can be a complex process, and during this emotional time, it's important to seek professional assistance. Funeral directors specialising in military services can guide you through every step, ensuring that your loved one receives the honours they deserve. The Australian Defence provides a range of services, assistance and resources to support ADF members and their families which can be found here.

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Involve the community

Military funerals often draw support from the community. Reach out to local veterans' organisations, such as the RSL (Returned and Services League), to coordinate their participation in the ceremony.

Communicate with attendees

Ensure that your guests are well-informed about the details of the service. Providing clear communication will help attendees understand the significance of the military honours and make the event more meaningful for everyone present.

Coping with grief

Losing a loved one who served in the military is a unique and challenging experience. Coping with grief is a personal journey and there is no set timeline for healing. Lean on the support of friends, family, and professional grief counsellors to help you navigate this difficult period. You are not alone in your grief, and there are resources available to assist you in the grieving process.  

A funeral with military honours is a heartfelt and solemn way to pay tribute to your loved one's service and sacrifice. As you navigate this challenging time, remember that your loved one's memory will be honoured with the respect and dignity they deserve. Every step of the process, from notifying the military to coordinating the details, is a way to express your gratitude and respect. Your loved one's service will be celebrated, and their memory cherished.